—the integration
Integration is something that often doesn’t get talked about a whole lot. To me, when we integrate, we are giving space for everything that has been changed, let go of, surrendered to be truly free. We let it go, we change it, we surrender it but before the new lands and becomes solid, there is a period of integration that really is so important, so under valued and critical for lasting and sustaining success.
“ The two I’s that really matter in life? Intention and Integration"
—Shari Ingleton
Integration is just as important as booking a session and showing up with an open mind and heart.
Give yourself time to integrate all that clears, shifts, changes and happens in our sessions because if you don’t, it is like getting your hair done and then walking out in the rain!
Of course the benefits are there still, of course the time and energy you have invested is not wasted but to be optimised, I recommend that you have some time and space after a session for the integration to begin, to let it all land. Let life wait just a little bit longer and soak up the time you have with yourself. What a gift it is!
This happens in our sessions together, but also in life. As things change, as we grow, expand, let go, get out of our comfort zone again and again and again {if you are reading this then I know I am talking to the brave ones who do this constantly!} As life changes, space gets made for the new. But the new doesn’t always land instantly. Integration hold the space, keeps the door open for the new to land. For the new to feel loved, nurtured, supported before the roots really take growth.
The bigger the change, the bigger the leap out of the comfort zone, the more integration and time it may take to be fully solidified in your life.
I am writing this in June 2025, in April {a mere three months ago} I leapt out of my comfort zone and into the unknown. I went to Brisbane to speak at a women’s event, to share my story that I have lived for the past 15 years. I left my boys home alone together, I stayed on my own for three nights. It was a huge expander. It was a huge leap of faith. It was following a decision my heart had made all those years ago that one day I would become a woman who speaks on stage to share her story so others feel less alone on their journey. To soften the steps ahead, to help clear the path and ensure no woman ever feels like she is walking this alone.
It changed me in every way. The woman I left as and the woman I came home as are two very different women.
I am so grateful for them both, but there is still so much that is integrating and if it is at all possible, I feel like even more so now than ever before I am more ME that ever before, and there is nothing solid or concrete {except the love for and from my boys} right now.
EVERYTHING IS CHANGING!
I actively chose it all. All my decisions have been mine. I am embracing it all but for the new to have space to land, the old must fall away. Once and for all. The cords cut, the space made, the space held, the door ajar for the new to enter.
The bigger the change, the bigger the challenge the more space we need to allow for integration. For things to click into place.
“Sometimes during the integration it calls for an absurd amount of love, an unimaginable amount of patience, a heart that fully lives in gratitude and truly believes in the life that we are creating, in the person we are becoming — Trust and faith in the unseen and intuition.”
Sending you so much love,
